Monday, July 23, 2007

Lovely as a Rose

I am searching for inspirational stories about father-daughter relationships, stories that share wisdom, teach moral and important life lessons, and give others insight into how to nurture and maintain a healthy, loving and fulfilling father-daughter relationship.

If you are a father or a daughter, I want to hear about your parent-child relationship experiences. For more information about submitting your story, please visit my website, www.gregoryelang.com, and click the red corner on the home page, just beneath the “Projects” tab.

I’m also collecting photos of dads and daughters to display on this blog. If you’d like to submit one, please email it to greg.lang@mindspring.com.

Now on to today’s diary entry…

Today’s photo is of our youngest, Linley, taken last summer.

Let me share this, an insightful, transparent and sincere note from a dad who wants to be a better dad:

“Shawn calls his five year old daughter, Rachel, a miracle child. She was born to Shawn and his wife after they finally conquered their long struggle with infertility and miscarriage. The day Rachel was born was more than a dream come true for the new dad; his new baby girl was an answer to his many heartfelt prayers.

Rachel is a great source of great joy for her father. His heart melts at the slightest glint of her smile or a glance into her big brown eyes. He is proud of his precocious daughter’s vocabulary and conversational skills, and finds great pleasure in horsing around with her, making her laugh as often as he can.

Although Shawn loves his daughter dearly and tries to make his affection obvious to her, he sometimes falls short of his own measure of how a good dad should act. High-strung and quick tempered, he sometimes finds himself irritated by Rachel’s interruptions and distracting behavior. Too often, he worries, he snaps and raises his voice at her. Should he be particularly stressed by a deadline, he might overreact to a situation and then can’t easily regain his composure. He wrote to me of his concern that he has potentially damaged his relationship with Rachel.

It seems she has begun to turn away from Shawn when he reaches for her, and worse, sometimes doesn’t reciprocate when he says “I love you” before she goes to bed.

Today Shawn says a new prayer – he asks for the strength to control his temper, and he asks for guidance to treat his daughter in such a way that she will one day think herself to be a beloved daddy’s little girl.

I think we can agree that all parents shout at their children now and then; I certainly do.

I asked Shawn recently about his relationship with Rachel. I was glad to hear he thought their interactions were improving, and that he had begun to spend some more time with her. She is taking a dance class and he picks her up when she is done, making sure to arrive early enough to watch and encourage her.

A blessing from God is this - a dad’s loving kindness will transcend the wounds his imperfections and misunderstandings may make; he must show what is in his heart, as Shawn has done.”

Well, I guess that’s enough for today. Thanks so much for visiting my blog. Now go out and hug somebody!

1 comment:

Dick W said...

Great Photo