Tuesday, January 08, 2008


I had a very nice time yesterday talking with Jim Vanore of the Cape May County Herald, NJ, discussing my book “Why I Still Love You.” He is writing a Wedding feature and has elected to cover the book in his article. Married thirty years, he had great insights of his own about what are the hallmarks of a great marriage, but he focused on one of my 100 reasons as a telling sign of a happy marriage. It was:

“I still love you because when I reach for you, you still move closer.”

This reason is the companion for a reason I wrote in the original book, “Why I Love You,” which I wrote for Jill. That reason is:

“I love you because when I reach for you, you move closer.”

It struck me that Jim focused on that particular reason because it describes perhaps the single most powerful evidence I have of how much Jill loves me. She has never pulled away, never shunned my affection, never been to busy for my attention, never been indifferent to my desire for her. In this way she lets me know that she is mine. Not as in she is chattel, but as in she has given herself in whole to me. How very blessed I am.

The other day I was less than the most understanding husband and I ended up hurting my wife’s feelings. When I realized what I had done, I apologized earnestly and then reached for her hand. Without a moment of hesitation, she interlaced her fingers with mine and held on tight. How very rich I am.

That’s all I’m going to write today. I have flowers to buy, champagne to chill, food to buy and prepare, and a card to sign. How very happy I am.

We are alone in the house for the next four nights. How very eager I am for my beautiful wife to come home.

Thanks so much for visiting my blog. Now go out and hug somebody!

1 comment:

J Vanore said...


Thanks for the interview yesterday. I plan on giving a copy of your book to my granddaughter who will be married this year. It’s a perfect little adjunct gift that all newly married couples should have.

Today I drove into work with my wife, Barbara. She dropped me off at the paper and will spend the day with a friend who just lost her husband.

Although I usually drive to work alone, occasionally Barbara does accompany me, for reasons such as this. We really enjoy that ride together—to and from. Gives us more time together. We appreciate that.

For years, I worked a rotating shift in the Philadelphia Police Department, so there were those times when it seemed as though we were the proverbial “ships passing in the night.” When I retired from police work, we resolved to make up for those lost years, and have been busy making up for them ever since—a most enjoyable endeavor.

I’ll be sure to send copies of the article after its publication in the Herald’s “Weddings & Special Events” section, January 30. Our online editions can be found at www.capemaycountyherald.com.

—Jim Vanore