Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Dose of Wisdom #3

Listen carefully.

When listening to anyone, what you hear depends in large part on how you hear. You should be quick to listen, but slow to speak and even slower to become defensive or angry, for neither reaction will bring out the best in you. Some of the best conversations you’ll have in life will be the most difficult ones. Strive to understand that criticism is as valuable to you as praise, and take care to represent yourself as one who is willing and able to listen to both. Praise tells you what you do well and that which you should maintain, but criticism tells you what you do not do so well, and that where you should focus your efforts for improvement. Remember, just because you don’t want to hear it doesn’t mean it isn’t worth hearing.

Your To Do: Think back to occasions when feedback angered you. Consider how you might handle similar feedback in a more calm and productive fashion, and how you might use feedback for self-improvement. Ask someone for constructive yet critical feedback; listen and use what you hear.

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