Monday, May 10, 2010

The Gift of Forgiveness

You cannot be forgiven without also being one who can forgive.

It seems natural to remember the trespass one has committed against you, and to then steer clear of that person, avoiding future negative encounters. But keeping score and holding grudges are exhausting exercises that ultimately harden your heart, and the real result is you have one less person in your circle of friends. Have you ever been excluded from someone’s circle because you were not forgiven? Would you like to be invited back into that person’s life? What would it take for that to happen? Is there anyone you’ve excluded from your life but with whom you wish you were friends again? Try forgiving her, not just in your mind and heart but in a face to face conversation. Forgiving is easy to do once you’ve tried it, and can be done often. The more you forgive, the more you will be forgiven. Try it, you’ll see.

Your To Do: Identify one person you are angry with, and carefully think about what she did to upset you. Weigh that trespass against all the positives you enjoyed when on good terms with her. Go to her and tell her you value those positives more than your grudge, and offer your forgiveness.

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